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I'm new... [April 22, 2009 @ 8:56am]

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Weekly Discussion Post [April 01, 2009 @ 10:57am]

daisygoddess
This Weeks Topic:

Tell me about your crazy in-laws! And I don't mean mother or father in-laws. I mean sister-in-laws or brother-in-laws. This can also include ones married to your brother/sister.
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Poll time!!! [March 25, 2009 @ 10:05am]

daisygoddess

Who's the main "chef" in the family?

I am.
17(54.8%)
My spouse is!
3(9.7%)
We both cook together.
2(6.5%)
We both take turns cooking.
5(16.1%)
Neither! Take-out is our heaven.
2(6.5%)
Other
2(6.5%)
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Weekly Discussion Topic [March 25, 2009 @ 10:02am]

daisygoddess
This Weeks Topic:

What do you and your spouse like to do for fun?
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[March 19, 2009 @ 10:14am]

daisygoddess
This Weeks Topic:

The current economy. Dish... how has it hurt/helped your marriage?
Did you have to make any changes? Has your or your spouses jobs been affected?
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Weekly Discussion Topic [March 10, 2009 @ 2:21pm]

daisygoddess
This Weeks Topic:

Why do you think married couples split so easily early on in the marriage?


Background and Personal Info from me: The year DH and I got married, in 2006, 4 other couples we knew also got married. Three out of those 4 couples have already divorced, 2 of them were before they reached their 1-year anniversary and the 3rd was not long after. No reasons were given to those on the out skirts. Some other couples I knew were married a little longer, but none of them reached their 5 year mark.

And ofcourse i know the "easily" i used in the question above doesn't mean it was easy for them. Its just for lack of a better word.
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Projectwedding.com needs your reviews [March 09, 2009 @ 2:30pm]
meocat
Hello everyone!

First off, I'd like to thank the mods for allowing me to post this here! You may have seen my post on 2008_weddings and am still trying to reach out to brides married within the last 3 years. My specific areas are Portland and Vancouver BC newlyweds. However, I am able to accept for all cities except for the SF Bay Area (Sacramento qualifies though), Los Angeles + Orange County (San Diego qualifies), Seattle, Chicago, New York + New Jersey and Boston. Some areas will be a case by case basis to qualify for the gift card, but you are certainly more than welcome to post your wedding vendor reviews on our website if you do not qualify for the promotion. Any help for other brides, like myself, is immensely appreciated.

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Division of Labor [March 08, 2009 @ 11:34am]

carllyy
I have some questions about the division of labour. I'm particularily interested in people who are married/common-law but don't have children since we have no kids yet.

DH and I are having issues with the division of chores/household tasks. I'm unemployed right now, so that's creating extra stress but normally we both work full time. The problem is even when we're both working full time I feel like I do all the housework. Right now it happens like this.

Me: -cooking
-cleaning 95% of the time
-bill paying
-grocery shopping
-laundry
-animal care
-dog poop (50%)
-recycling
-errands
-gardening/weeding (seasonal)

Him: -cleans up the kitchen when he's on day shift so 50% of the time (and I help)
-cuts the grass (we live in Canada so this is seasonal)
-household repairs
-garbage
-dog poop (50%)
-cleans the house (it happens rarely but when he does it he spends like 10hrs doing it. The last time was at least 4 months ago)

So we had a big fight last night about it because he maintains that he does half the work. Aside from that apparently I should be doing 100% of it because I'm unemployed. That part I can deal with since it's a temporary situation but I need help in the long term. How can we divide things up to be more fair? How do you do it? How do you decide who does what? There are jobs that I know will always be mine (cooking, grocery shopping, animal care, bills) but I need a way to either ensure he does more or at the very least show him that I do a lot more around the house than he does. Help!
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Non-Married Friends [March 06, 2009 @ 9:36am]

daisygoddess
I have a question for those who have non-married friends. Friends who are not even dating someone.

Does being married seem to effect your friendship?



I have a few friends who are not even dating anyone, and they seem to be pulling away. I don't know if it's because they feel like a 3rd wheel or an odd man out. When i bring it up to them, they totally deny anything and say that it's not because we're married... or as one even said "a package deal" and they're not. So i don't know if they're just trying to be nice or really mean it. But it still seems to me that they are seperating themselves from us and clinging more to their other non-married friends. And it's not like this is something that can easily be fixed.

This particular friend I have in mind lives 2 hours away and my husband loves her. So if we went to visit her, or if she came for a visit... he wants to visit with her too. I don't want to take that away from him to do girl weekends only. But at the same time, i think just girl weekends would help our friendship. We could try every other, but these visits are so rare that it's difficult.

I don't know. I just want to see if there's anyone else going through something similar.
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Funny Post Wedding Blues [March 04, 2009 @ 1:23pm]

daisygoddess
I came across this top ten list on how you know if you have the post wedding blues. Do you have any of these??

1. You decide to turn your veil into a pretty lace curtain (and then secretly stand under it and recite your wedding vows when you think no one could possibly be watching).

2. You answer questions with “I do” instead of “yes”—which is driving your friends, family and coworkers up the wall (and it’s why nobody’s in a hurry to return your calls).

3. Your new favorite hobby is watching the raw footage of your wedding video on repeat while chowing down on a slice of stale cake.

4. You’ll no longer leave the house without something old, new, borrowed and blue.

5. You host a dinner party re-creating the food at your reception, giving the option of chicken, fish or steak.

6. You’re planning the weddings of everyone you know who’s had a significant other for more than a month. Okay, a week.

7. You now call all of your vacations “honeymoons,” including when you’re just going home to see your parents for a few days.

8. You order your signature cocktail when out at your favorite bar—never mind that the “Lovetini” isn’t exactly on the menu.

9. You buy the chic paper lanterns you see at a flea market because they would’ve been just perfect for your cocktail hour.

10. You invite your married girlfriends over for a “wear your wedding dress” party and play all the music from your reception.
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Weekly Discussion Post/Poll [March 04, 2009 @ 1:16pm]

daisygoddess
This Weeks Topic:

Buying a house, or having a baby? Which one do you feel should come first?



This Weeks Poll:

How many incomes in your household?

One
6(23.1%)
Two
19(73.1%)
More
1(3.8%)
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[February 26, 2009 @ 11:24pm]

teezmepeaz
Hi! Im new here, Just found this community and I am very excited!

Name and/or LJ userID: Renee

When you were married: Thats a secret (technically our familys don't know know)

Wife/Husband/Other (please specify): Im the wife

Age:21

City/State/Country you live in: Arizona

Do you have any children?: do fur babys count? I have two Max and Isabella

Are you planning on having children?: Yeah we want three..or so. Abigail Claire E ( her nick name will be ACE) WIlliam Owens E (WOE a family name) and FInaly Hayden for another boy and if we have a girl Gwen. Of course realistically I could have all boys but I want an ACE!

Do you own a house?: Sure do for a year now! I also own a farm from before i met him but its in Kentucky.

Is this your first time living together?: Yup

What are your shared goals for the next two years?: Buy a second house, ummm save?

Anything else you'd like to tell us?:
I have an..odd? question that I hope someone could help me with..since apparently no one can answer..

We are currently looking into buying a second house in Kentucky where my farm is...Its *only* 45,000 and would be able to pay it in cash. BUT! he is fighting with me saying that it will help our credit scores if we take out a small 20,000 dollar mortgage. Is he correct? To me it would just seem stupid. Any advice on this would be awesome since I am a total newbie to this mortgage/credit score thing.  If anyone knows a better community for this quesiton that would be AWESOME also. I feel weird asking debt communitys since well, most of them are trying to get out of debt while he we are trying to get  into more debt.

Thanks!

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The black one is Izzy and the red one is Max..and the toes are mine...ha

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A yay for hubby! [February 24, 2009 @ 2:32pm]

daisygoddess
This past week my husband celebrated his 1 year smoke free!!!! I was so proud of him!

When we first started dating, we were both smokers. I was a social smoker and he was a pack a day smoker. I ended up quitting (luckily it was easy for me to start and stop without problem) and ever since i bugged him to quit too.

Time after time he would tell me to let him do it on his own. And finally, one day he went into the stop and rob, aka convience store, and came right out. He said "You know what, i don't really feel like it anymore." I had asked what i could do to help, and he told me to buy him a Playstation.

So the rest is history! 1 year smoke free and i couldn't be more proud of him!
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Yooper Noob [February 24, 2009 @ 12:24pm]

remin
Name and/or LJ userID: Jenny/remin
When you were married: October 4, 2008
Wife/Husband/Other (please specify): Wife.
Age: I'm 27, he's pushing 30.
City/State/Country you live in: Marquette/Michigan/USA.
Do you have any children?: A 2-1/2 year old labradinger (a.k.a. springador) named Murphy.
Are you planning on having children?: Not yet. We'd like children but are trying to hold off (using Natural Family Planning) for at least a year.
Do you own a house?: No. We're renting a house currently with the option to buy. It's like a test-run of the house. Husband loves it. I'm not sold yet.
Is this your first time living together?: Yes. We waited to live together, and for everything else too. I'm the old school one of us.
What are your shared goals for the next two years?: Home, children, taking a belated honeymoon.
Anything else you'd like to tell us?: We're total opposites - and stubborn to boot - but somehow we work and are happy. Hi all!
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[February 24, 2009 @ 10:31am]

lizzer01
Where are all the new peeps coming from? This place is usually dead! 
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Intro Survey. [February 24, 2009 @ 6:59am]

chapstickqueen
Name and/or LJ userID: Gena/chapstickqueen
When you were married: October 26, 2008
Wife/Husband/Other (please specify): I'm the wife. My husband is Eric.
Age: I'll be 25 in April, he's 26.
City/State/Country you live in: For now we live in Orange County, California.
Do you have any children?: We have two cats, Sugar and Spice.
Are you planning on having children?: No.
Do you own a house?: No, but we're planning to move to Portland within the next year or two.
Is this your first time living together?: We lived together for about a year and a half before we were married.
What are your shared goals for the next two years?: Recycle more [become as green as can be, in general], walk 10-15 miles per week, move to Portland, we hope my husband passes the Bar in both Oregon and California, and we'd like to get a Great Dane to name Moose.
Anything else you'd like to tell us?: Sometimes our relationship is a bit unbalanced because he had never been in a relationship before me, while I'd had several significant exes. Lucky for us, we agree on so many values, and have so many common ideas/plans/philosophies.
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Intro post - newlywed-to-be [February 24, 2009 @ 9:23am]

arsefire23
Name and/or LJ userID: Melissa
When you were married: We are getting married on 4/23/09
Wife/Husband/Other (please specify): Brad
Age: I will be 28, he's turning 40 this year
City/State/Country you live in: MA
Do you have any children?: He has a 12 year old daughter
Are you planning on having children?: We plan to have 1-2 more children
Do you own a house?: We own a townhouse, we plan to move this year to a full sized house
Is this your first time living together?: We've lived together for 9 years
What are your shared goals for the next two years?: Moving, puppies, babies
Anything else you'd like to tell us?:  I'm joinining now because I don't want to forget after we get married! Wish us luck!
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New! [February 23, 2009 @ 9:07pm]

swingkitten9
Name and/or LJ userID: Courtney/swingkitten9
When you were married: 3/17/07 (coming up on our anniversary!!)
Wife/Husband/Other (please specify): wife
Age: 23
City/State/Country you live in: Washington state, near Seattle
Do you have any children?: Nope!
Are you planning on having children?: Eventually.
Do you own a house?: No, we rent a house
Is this your first time living together?: We lived in sin for 7 months prior to our wedding. :)
What are your shared goals for the next two years?: Save for a house and keep working on our educations...my husband is working on his BS and I want to start my MAE (I'm a teacher).
Anything else you'd like to tell us?: We have a dog named Ozzie and two cats named Onion and Peppermint. My husband has been a mechanic for 4 years or so and is studying to be a fisheries biologist, and I teach K-2 at a little school on an island. Pictures of usCollapse )
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introduction [February 23, 2009 @ 8:42pm]

xhollydayx
Name and/or LJ userID: Holly and xhollydayx
When you were married: June 14, 2008
Wife/Husband/Other (please specify): Husband, although I still accidentally call him boyfriend or fiance. His name is Nathan, and he is also known as cynic51 (although does not yet want to join the community)
Age: 26, he is 31
City/State/Country you live in: Lakewood (suburb of Cleveland), Ohio, USA
Do you have any children?: No. We have a dog, who is like a child.
Are you planning on having children?: I have some chronic health issues, so we are planning on raising children but whether or not we biologically have them is not up to us.
Do you own a house?: We bought a house before we were even engaged! I actually lost some friends over that.
Is this your first time living together?: The house was our first time living together. It will be two years in March.
What are your shared goals for the next two years?: As long as I get in to one of my top two grad schools, maintain a long distance relationship. Other than that, lots of travel.
Anything else you'd like to tell us?: Nah, I might have already given more information than needed above!
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Introductory Post [February 23, 2009 @ 5:46pm]

superbean
Name and/or LJ userID: superbean
When you were married: January 3, 2009
Wife/Husband/Other (please specify): I'm the wife =3
Age: 22
City/State/Country you live in: Philadelphia, PA
Do you have any children?: No, unless our two hamsters count!
Are you planning on having children?: Yes
Do you own a house?: Not yet.
Is this your first time living together?: Kind of? I lived with him in his parent's house for a year before we got our own place.
What are your shared goals for the next two years?: For me to finish school and get my Master's degree. That's really it for the moment, though we do have things planned out til about 2013-14...heh.
Anything else you'd like to tell us?:
Not really :)




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